Valentine's Day can seem like a day manufactured by Hallmark and Tipton Hurst. It's the day when you are supposed to celebrate the one you love--like you don't every other day of the year.
My significant other and I have a long-standing disagreement about the giving of flowers on days like these. We start debating about flowers before Valentine's Day and my birthday.
My side of the debate goes something like this: I love getting flowers from you (except carnations) AND I love even more getting flowers in front of other people like my co-workers. So IF (and I know you won't forget) you get me flowers, please have them delivered to work so everyone can see the proof of how you feel about me.
Somehow, his side of the debate is this: I want to get you flowers ON the day of your birth or Valentine's Day. They are for you, not for your co-workers. Why should they care that I get you flowers? Why must you put stock in what others think of our relationship? And why are women so competitive about relationships?
I'll let you know who wins the debate.
So which side are you on?
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I can see both sides of the debate but having people know someone sent you flowers is awesome! I think I lean toward this option because my workplace is my house. But hey, I can always post a photo on the interwebs and then everybody can know that my husband cared enough to send the very best.
ReplyDeleteI agree that getting flowers at work is really special somehow. I can't answer his questions, really, just that it's a nice feeling to have.
ReplyDeleteI am 1000% on his side! The fact that you point out he better not forget and you can't get me this kind of flower (meaning the cheap flower) because you want other people to see "how much he cares about you" is ridiculous! 1) because you are putting pressure on him to pay an expontentially inflated price for something that's supposed to be a symbol of "how much" he cares about you to others, and not allowing him the freedom to have a creative idea that my actually signify his true love for you. I'd much rather have a true gift than something that I told someone to buy me. 2) it's abosultely selfish and one sided and if this is truly how your relationship is the true status of the relationship it kind of sad. There's not room for a gift that's intamate or something that might show you that he real knows you, so whats he point?
ReplyDeleteIf I was him, I would tell you to buy yourself roses for $85 and send them to yourself and he will spend his money on a gift for you that actually means something!
Women are putting too much of this materialistic showy competition pressure on men these days. No wonder they don't want to get married. If they aren't even allow to buy you a gift from the heart what would they have to deal with if they lived with this person? I'm telling you, men do not want these type of expecations placed on them. They just want you to love them enough to allow them to give you a gift that you would appreciate!
And I'm not trying to be mean, but that last part is what he really meant by asking you all those questions. Let him read this and see what he says. Might strick up a good conversation for the two of you! =) Or debate...
ReplyDeleteChristina--I will let him read what you said and see what happens.
ReplyDeleteFor the record, we aren't seriously arguing about this. It's just funny to us now. I know he does nice and thoughtful things for me all the time and he knows I appreciate them. He knows I love him regardless of the flower issue.
Those are so pretty and they are tulips! Your fav. =0)
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